If you are beaten by your husband, or the man with whom you live or have a relationship, this handbook can assist you.
It is against the law for your husband or partner to beat you. But there are still many people, including some police, state's attorneys, and judges, who do not believe that violence between a man and woman involved in a relationship is a crime. They may think that it is a private matter between the couple. Some people may even tell you or imply that the violence is your fault.
Facts About Domestic Violence
MYTH: A man's home is his castle. No one should interfere with the family.
REALITY: Battery is a crime! No one has the right to beat another person. It is your home too. You have the right to a life free from fear and physical abuse.
MYTH: A woman who gets beaten brings it upon herself by nagging or provoking her spouse.
REALITY: Women are beaten for reasons as ridiculous as: the dinner was cold; the TV was turned to the wrong channel; the baby was crying. The fact is that abusive men refuse to control their violent impulses. Even where the man may have reason to be angry, he has no right to express his anger violently. You are not responsible for his violent behavior!
MYTH: A woman who stays with her husband or boyfriend after being beaten must like to be beaten.
REALITY: Being beaten hurts and no one likes it. There are many reasons why women remain with abusive men, including their fear of further violence. the financial hardships of leaving, their emotional attachment to their partners and their belief that families should stay together.
MYTH: Calling the police will automatically result in jail and loss of employment for the abuser.
REALITY: Unless the violence is extremely serious. the abuser is unlikely to spend more than a few hours in jail. Studies have shown that arrest is often an effective way to prevent further violence. In addition, police are now required to assist and advise domestic violence victims.